About a
year ago I noticed in amongst the usual crowd of excited children collecting
water at the stand pipe, a tiny toddler.
Skinny, slight of frame, clad only in an old pair of raggedy shorts and
filthy dirty, he was only remarkable for two reasons; first, he was being
treated pretty bloody shabbily by his companions and second, he looked very
much a miniature version of Alex.
Little
Rodrigues was the unplanned, but surely not entirely surprising, issue of a
union between a married mother of the village, and an itinerant Portuguese
labourer. Sadly, the lad was also very
much unwanted. His colour, of course, pretty
much gave the game away and this ambulatory proof of his mother’s infidelity
wasn’t particularly well received. Her
lack of compassion for him translated into abuse from his peers.
I have been
known to hand out a sweet or two to kids struggling under the burden of a full
bucket of water and these little gifts were always politely received. If I miscounted the number present (so very
easy to do, especially as their numbers always seemed to multiply as soon as the
doces appeared) and there were too few sweets, they
shared. I was shocked, therefore, that
every sweet I handed this toddler was quickly snatched away. He wasn’t guided by the tender clasp of an
older sibling’s hand, he was tugged and pulled and shouted on his way. He so badly wanted to belong but stood
forlorn, isolated within a crowd. It was
heart-breaking; the colour of his skin, after all, was hardly his fault.
But there
was nothing much I could do about it.
No, seriously, what the hell could any reasonable person expect me to do? I could hardly throw my weight around in his mother’s
house. That is their way, their culture,
I have to respect this. So long as they stopped
short of murder and weren’t physically abusing the boy too much (beating kids,
and women, is normal here) all I could do was feel sorry for him.
Mini-Alex
is now three and, as parents here allow, is considered old enough to wander about the
village on his own. I was delighted when
a few days ago I noticed a little figure shyly watching me from behind a tree
in my garden (the sandpit I optimistically refer to as my garden).
Despite
what you may have read, I am not very good with children. I have found it best to treat them as I do
animals. Show them who is boss, be fair, reward good behaviour, chastise bad but don't beat, and add a healthy dollop of
affection. Men could do worse than
treating their wives the same way. You
do not gain the trust of a skittery wild creature by marching up to it. If you are lucky enough to spot it before, at
your appearance, it buggers off sharpish into the bush, it is important to
behave naturally; just carry on with whatever it was you were doing. It was probably that which aroused the
creature’s curiosity anyway.
So I
ignored the boy save for a nod and a smile in his direction and before long he
was in and out the house as if it was his home.
He does like his glass of milk and he definitely likes my European food. I don’t suppose he has ever eaten ice cream
before, he likes that a lot. Other children pitch up here as well, no
doubt some of the lad’s tormentors. Fort
Hippo, though, is Switzerland. Well, not
quite. There’s not much snow here and unlike
the Swiss, I will clip the ears of rule breakers. At Fort Hippo, all men are equal so long as
they behave themselves and show courtesy to their fellows. The kids are all nice to Mini Alex when he's here.
Marcia, who
had been away in town for a few days and only got back the night before last, was a
little surprised, pleasantly though, to see Mini Alex so comfortable in our
surroundings. Naturally, she could not
resist having a dig at me, referring to how we white boys stick together.
‘Well we
bloody need to with all the shit you lot give us, don’t we!’ I said, a tadge aggrieved.
The opportunity for revenge was swift in
coming. I had given the kids a sweet each. The local equivalent of a Bounty bar, sticky
sweet coconut covered in chocolate. As
usual, all the other kids except Alex (who knows at what peril he litters the
house) made only half-hearted attempts to toss the torn wrappers onto the coffee
table. Most end up on the floor. Not Mini Alex’s, though. He eased himself off his chair and his feet onto
the ground, toddled over to the bin wherein he disposed of his wrapper.
‘Did you
see that!’ Marcia exclaimed.
I feigned
ignorance. I had seen it and was just as
stunned. All Angolans toss litter; along
with stoning dogs they learn to do so as soon as they can walk.
‘See what
Darling?’
‘Rodrigues
just threw his sweet wrapper into the bin!’
‘Did he? Well why wouldn’t he?' I asked, 'He’s half white…’
Having bored most of you with my last few posts, which have been rather more technical than fluffy, I feel I should warn you I am about to do so again in my next post (not this one, today is Snuggly Sunday). The factory in Italy, rather sooner than I expected, want to start production of my wood working machines and for this they need the final specification. The final specification depends on the tooling and for this I need advice. Anyway, all that going through my mind prevented me from sleeping last night and I was still sorting through tooling catalogues and spread sheets at four this morning.
About two
weeks ago was another occasion I couldn’t sleep, not because I was preoccupied but because I could
have sworn I heard whimpering. Not just
any whimpering, but the worrying kind that comes from places it shouldn’t, in this case
from under the house. Once bitten, twice
shy; naturally I wasn’t particularly keen on venturing under a house in the
tropics at night. It is one thing facing
down an irate viper from my full height of six feet, quite another to be
eyeballing it on all fours with mosquitoes nipping the old bum. In the end,
though, there was no way I could ignore such plaintive and weak pleas for help
so, spurning my rattler proof flip flops in favour of a towel round the waist,
I crawled under the house hoping the stench of fear would keep the gribbly gremlins away.
How the
hell it got there, I have no idea. It
was too small to have crawled far from anywhere and as soon as I scooped it up
it tried to suckle my fingers. Poor
bugger, heaving with fleas and covered in insect bites, his eyes and mouth encrusted
with dirt. Charlie and his bitches were
enough for me, I didn’t want another dog but sometimes they pick you, and there’s
sod all a decent chap can do except dig out the warm milk and syringe.
Last night
Rocky kept me company. Alex came up with
the name. Alex has never met the
youngest of my two brothers but he has seen pictures of him. Christopher does bear a striking resemblance
to Sylvester Stallone and if we ever manage to get him on Skype (Chris that
is, not Mr. Stallone), Alex would discover he sounds like him too. Chris spent a long time with the US Military
and went so native he even bought something called an ‘I Rock Zee’. It was big, and as bright blue as a baboon’s
bottom. His must have been a very
technical job for he was forever rushing off in PT kit to ‘work out’ something. Alex is into punching
lumps off his punch bag and likes the Rocky films so when it came time to name
the future guard dog of all my wood working tools and machinery, Rocky seemed
as good a name as any. Better than
Sylvester. No wonder Stallone grew up
handy with his fists.
I suppose here I shouldn't be surprised, asleep on duty. |
you have such a kind heart. both babies and puppies sleep soundly in your house!
ReplyDeleteWait til my machines are installed, when I run them up, no one will sleep!
DeleteRocky and Mini-Alex are so cute. And you are so kind-hearted to take in waifs and strays, despite your protestations that you aren't!
ReplyDeleteBut I'm not a waif or a stray!
Deleteyou put everyone to sleep!
ReplyDeleteJeez, I'm sorry if the blog isn't a little more exciting but I have a mixed audience so can't include too many heaving bosoms and throbbing manhoods, Kylie.
DeleteI doubt your machines will wake the babies. My dad built half our home while we slept in the other half.
ReplyDeleteWhere did you sleep before he had the first half built?
DeleteIn the upstairs bedrooms.
DeleteNow how could anybody not just melt at the sight of those two? Once again you've done good Tom. I'd be up for keeping both of them permanently especially since the mother of the first one seems indifferent at best and the mother of the second one is MIA. And they are both young enough you can train them right, though I am inclined to think that Rocky will take more effort than little Rodrigues.
ReplyDeleteWell I am glad some sort of thaw has finally arrived for you!
DeleteOnce again it amazes me how you have settled there amongst customs that many times must be so difficult to watch without interfering. I guess you just find a way that is not so obvious and do what you can. I wonder if any of them show you any gratitude and the respect you deserve
ReplyDeleteNo, none, not at all. It's their way.
DeleteWell this has certainly brightened up my Monday morning. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteSurrounded by red painted ovines I imagined your days would be bright enough!
DeleteI thought you once said you weren't starting a refugee centre. Well done; two poor souls now have a best friend,
ReplyDeleteUs refugees have to stick together.
DeleteBoth of those little ones are adorable. Babies and animals know good people when they meet them!
ReplyDeleteIt makes me sad to think that Rodrigues isn't loved by his family. What the hell is wrong with his mother? How can she not care for her own child, no matter how he was conceived? I'm thankful he found friends like you and little Alex. The poor little guy needs all the love he can get.
Sadly, there are lots of places in the world where children are little more than a commodity.
DeleteHand me the tissue box. Im a mess...
ReplyDeletePull yourself together woman, mustn't be seen to blub in front of the natives.
DeleteThat poor little boy….I hope he is able to rise above his sad childhood with your help. Lucky pup to have found someone to care.
ReplyDeleteYes, I hope so too. Now that his character is evident, I think he'll hold his own.
DeleteThis post makes better reading than the last one! Great stuff.
ReplyDeleteHmm, content or circulation? Every editor's dilemma.
DeleteThank fuck for that!
ReplyDeleteBack to human, puppy interest stories with an Angolan twist
Typical. I write about something that interests me and a few comments crawl in, I write about fluffy puppies and doe eyed little boys and in half a day I have a million hits. I know how Marvin felt. Here I am, brain the size of a planet, and they ask me to write cuddly. Call that job satisfaction, 'cause I don't
DeleteSorry, I agree with John....the posts with heart are far more interesting than that other stuff!
DeleteCan we have some more pictures of Rocky? I'd like a better look at him! He'll be good for Alex. I'm firmly convinced that growing up with dogs is good for kids. I'm sure they'll be best pals!
Yeah, yeah, alright. Here you have a wonderful opportunity to see photos of spindle moulders and cutter heads and all you want are photos of puppies. I give up!
DeleteI think you should keep both strays. In time, one can give you a hand with all the new machines you'll have, and the other can help to guard them.
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